the other troubling statement i get from my black girlfriends regarding dating white dudes is, youre the type of black girl white guys like. for the longest time, i have been told that i am the type of black girl that white guys would be falling over themselves to date. why black female and white male marriages work interracial couples are usually made up of two very open-minded people. This helps on the one hand because the couple has different backgrounds and such a match requires understanding, but on the other hand because the nature of marriage requires tolerance and respect for differences at all levels. while grieving each broken relationship, i wondered what it was that i was missing. All around, my black girlfriends were marrying their black boyfriends, and i was growing impatient, waiting for mine. So when i met a white man at age 27, you could have knocked me over with a feather, especially when he and i fell in love and got married. truthfully, like any relationship, you cannot help whom you love. Your skin alone can be a situation that he has to downplay and upplay your intelligence and love. Then as the family and friends get to know you, theyll loosen up as long as you help or dont change how the family operates. Remember, getting blackballed is a real thing in white family culture.