But for many people vaginas (especially those who have sex with cis-men), having an orgasm when they do really want one can be a bit of a challenge. Main article 69 (sex position) oral sex between two people at the same time is called 69. Partners can be lying side-by-side, lying one on top of the other, or standing with one partner holding the other upside down. Positions for anilingus, also known as rimming, anal-oral sex, or rimjob are one partner is on all fours. This position is a common favorite for both men and women, as it encourages deep penetration. With the woman lying on her back (hips at the edge of the bed), the man enters her. They can reach around and put their hands on your shoulders or belly, then slide into you from behind and thrust in long, leisurely strokes. Indicated that orgasm rates are similar among men across sexual orientations. With regard to pain or being uncomfortable during anal sex, some research indicates that, for 24 to 61 of gay or bisexual men, painful receptive anal sex (known as anodyspareunia) is a frequent lifetime sexual difficulty.