a closer look into the downlow lifestyle of gay black men. rejecting a gay culture they perceive as white and effeminate, many black men have settled on a new identity, with its own vocabulary and customs and its own name down low. you cant tell black men to stop hiding their sexuality and being on the low, and on the flip tell them to keep all that gay shit to themselves and im cool with it, just dont do it in front of me. As long as the community continues to treat black gay men the way they do the downlow will be here to stay. its become nearly impossible to distinguish heterosexual men from down low thugs due to the proliferation of female-led households in the black community. As more and more black women switch roles and responsibilities with men, more and more fatherless men are turning to other men for the strength and guidance they are missing in their lives. dl men deliberately segregate themselves from both black and white gay cultures and adopt an alternative black masculinity that only wants to have sex and socialize with other black.